Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was a Girl - paperback

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Author: Jeannie Vanasco


  • Paperback: 376 pages
  • Publisher: Tin House Books; 1 edition (August 11, 2020)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1951142039
  • ISBN-13: 978-1951142032
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 8.5 inches

In this bold, timely, and groundbreaking work of nonfiction, Jeannie Vanasco's confronts her own memories of sexual assault―and the man who assaulted her―confronting the way we, as a society, talk about rape.

Jeannie Vanasco has had the same nightmare since she was a teenager. She startles awake, saying his name. It is always about him: one of her closest high school friends, a boy named Mark. A boy who raped her. When her nightmares worsen, Jeannie decides--after fourteen years of silence--to reach out to Mark. He agrees to talk on the record and meet in person. "It's the least I can do," he says.

Jeannie details her friendship with Mark before and after the assault, asking the brave and urgent question: Is it possible for a good person to commit a terrible act? Jeannie interviews Mark, exploring how rape has impacted his life as well as her own. She examines the language surrounding sexual assault and pushes against its confines, contributing to and deepening the #MeToo discussion.

Exacting and courageous, Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was a Girl is part memoir, part true crime record, and part testament to the strength of female friendships?a recounting and reckoning that will inspire us to ask harder questions and interrogate our biases. Jeannie Vanasco examines and dismantles long-held myths of victimhood, discovering grace and power in this genre-bending investigation into the trauma of sexual violence.